Questions and Answers About Alcoholics Anonymous
Several million people have probably heard or read about Alcoholics Anonymous since its beginnings in 1935. Some are relatively familiar with the program of recovery from alcoholism that has helped more than 2,000,000 problem drinkers. Others have only a vague impression that A.A. is some sort of organization that somehow helps drunks stop drinking.
This pamphlet is designed for those who are interested in AA for themselves, for a friend or relative, or simply because they wish to be better informed about this unusual Fellowship. Included on the following pages are answers to many of the specific questions that have been asked about AA in the past. They add up to the story of a loosely knit society of men and women who have one great interest in common: the desire to stay sober themselves and to help other alcoholics who seek help for their drinking problem.
The thousands of men and women who have come into AA in recent years are not altruistic do-gooders. Their eagerness and willingness to help other alcoholics may be termed enlightened self-interest. Members of AA appreciate that their own sobriety is largely dependent on continuing contact with alcoholics.
Alcoholism and Alcoholics
Not too long ago, alcoholism was viewed as a moral problem. Today, many regard it primarily as a health problem. To each problem drinker, it will always remain an intensely personal matter. Alcoholics who approach AA frequently ask questions that apply to their own experience, their own fears, and their own hopes for a better way of life.
1. What is alcoholism?
There are many different ideas about what alcoholism really is.
The explanation that seems to make sense to most AA members is that alcoholism is an illness, a progressive illness, which can never be cured but which, like some other diseases, can be arrested. Going one step further, many AA’s feel that the illness represents the combination of a physical sensitivity to alcohol and a mental obsession with drinking, which, regardless of consequences, cannot be broken by willpower alone.
Before they are exposed to AA, many alcoholics who are unable to stop drinking think of themselves as morally weak or, possibly, mentally unbalanced. The AA concept is that alcoholics are sick people who can recover if they will follow a simple program that has proved successful for more than one and a half million men and women.
Once alcoholism has set in, there is nothing morally wrong about being ill. At this stage, free will is not involved, because the sufferer has lost the power of choice over alcohol. The important thing is to face the facts of one’s illness and to take advantage of the help that is available. There must also be a desire to get well. Experience shows that the AA program will work for all alcoholics who are sincere in their efforts to stop drinking; it usually will not work for those not absolutely certain that they want to stop.
2. How can I tell if I am really an alcoholic?
Only you can make that decision. Many who are now in AA have previously been told that they were not alcoholics, that all they needed was more willpower, a change of scenery, more rest, or a few new hobbies in order to straighten out. These same people finally turned to AA because they felt, deep down inside, that alcohol had them licked and that they were ready to try anything that would free them from the compulsion to drink.
Some of these men and women went through terrifying experiences with alcohol before they were ready to admit that alcohol was not for them. They became derelicts, stole, lied, cheated, and even killed while they were drinking. They took advantage of their employers and abused their families. They were completely unreliable in their relations with others. They wasted their material, mental, and spiritual assets.
Many others with far less tragic records have turned to AA, too. They have never been jailed or hospitalized. Their too-heavy drinking may not have been noticed by their closest relatives and friends. But they knew enough about alcoholism as a progressive illness to scare them. They joined AA before they had paid too heavy a price.
There is a saying in AA that there is no such thing as being a little bit alcoholic. Either you are, or you are not. And only the individual involved can say whether or not alcohol has become an unmanageable problem.
3. Can an alcoholic ever drink ‘normally’ again?
So far as can be determined, no one who has become an alcoholic has ever ceased to be an alcoholic. The mere fact of abstaining from alcohol for months or even years has never qualified an alcoholic to drink ‘normally’ or socially. Once the individual has crossed the borderline from heavy drinking to irresponsible alcoholic drinking, there seems to be no retreat. Few alcoholics deliberately try to drink themselves into trouble, but trouble seems to be the inevitable consequence of an alcoholic’s drinking. After quitting for a period, the alcoholic may feel it is safe to try a few beers or a few glasses of light wine. This can mislead the person into drinking only with meals. But it is not too long before the alcoholic is back in the old pattern of too-heavy drinking — in spite of all efforts to set limits for only moderate, social drinking.
The answer, based on AA experience, is that if you are an alcoholic, you will never be able to control your drinking for any length of time. That leaves two paths open: to let your drinking become worse and worse with all the damaging results that follow, or to quit completely and to develop a new pattern of sober, constructive living.
4. Can’t an AA member drink even beer?
There are, of course, no musts in AA, and no one checks up on members to determine whether or not they are drinking anything. The answer to this question is that if a person is an alcoholic, touching alcohol in any form cannot be risked. Alcohol is alcohol whether it is found in a martini, a Scotch and soda, a bourbon and branch water, a glass of champagne — or a short beer. For the alcoholic, one drink of alcohol in any form is likely to be too much, and twenty drinks are not enough.
To be sure of sobriety, alcoholics simply have to stay away from alcohol, regardless of the quantity, mixture, or concentration they may think they can control.
Obviously, few persons are going to get drunk on one or two bottles of beer. The alcoholic knows this as well as the next person. But alcoholics may convince themselves that they are simply going to take two or three beers and then quit for the day. Occasionally, they may actually follow this program for a number of days or weeks, Eventually, they decide that as long as they are drinking, they may as well ‘do a good job.’ So they increase their consumption of beer or wine. Or they switch to hard liquor. And again, they are back where they started.
5. I can stay sober quite a while between binges; how can I tell whether I need AA?
Most AA’s will say that it’s how you drink, not how often, that determines whether or not you are an alcoholic. Many problem drinkers can go weeks, months, and occasionally years between their bouts with liquor. During their periods of sobriety, they may not give alcohol a second thought. Without mental or emotional effort, they are able to take it or leave it alone, and they prefer to leave it alone.
Then, for some unaccountable reason, or for no reason at all, they go off on a first-class binge. They neglect job, family, and other civic and social responsibilities. The spree may last a single night, or it may be prolonged for days or weeks. When it is over, the drinker is usually weak and remorseful, determined never to let it happen again. But it does happen again.
This type of ‘periodic’ drinking is baffling, not only to those around the drinker, but also to the person still drinking. He or she cannot understand why there should be so little interest in alcohol during the periods between binges, or so little control over it once the drinking starts.
The periodic drinker may or may not be an alcoholic. But if drinking has become unmanageable and if the periods between binges are becoming shorter, chances are the time has come to face up to the problem. If the person is ready to admit to being an alcoholic, then the first step has been taken toward the continuing sobriety enjoyed by thousands upon thousands of AA’s.
6. Others say I am not an alcoholic. But my drinking seems to be getting worse. Should I join AA?
Many members of AA, during their drinking days, were assured by relatives, friends, and doctors that they were not alcoholics. The alcoholic usually adds to the problem by an unwillingness to realistically face the facts of drinking. By not being completely honest, the problem drinker makes it difficult for a doctor to provide any help. The amazing thing, in fact, is that so many doctors have been able to penetrate the typical problem drinker’s deceptions and diagnose the problem correctly.
It cannot be emphasized too often that the important decision — am I an alcoholic? — has to be made by the drinker. Only he or she — not the doctor, the family, or friends — can make it. But once it is made, half the battle for sobriety is won. If the question is left to others to decide, the alcoholic may be dragging out needlessly the dangers and misery of uncontrollable drinking.
7. Can a person achieve sobriety all alone by reading AA literature?
A few people have stopped drinking after reading Alcoholics Anonymous, the AA ‘Big Book,’ which sets forth the basic principles of the recovery program. But nearly all of those who were in a position to do so promptly sought out other alcoholics with whom to share their experience and sobriety.
The AA program works best for the individual when it is recognized and accepted as a program involving other people. Working with other alcoholics in the local AA group, problem drinkers seem to learn more about their problem and how to handle it. The find themselves surrounded by others who share their past experiences, their present problems, and their hopes. They shed the feelings of loneliness that may have been an important factor in their compulsion to drink.
8. Won’t everyone know I am an alcoholic if I come into AA?
Anonymity is and always has been the basis of the AA program. Most members, after they have been in AA awhile, have no particular objection if the word gets around that they have joined a fellowship that enables them to stay sober. Traditionally, AA’s never disclose their association with the movement in print, on the air, or through any other public media. And no one has the right to break the anonymity of another member.
This means that the newcomer can turn to AA with the assurance that no newfound friends will violate confidences relating to his or her drinking problem. The older members of the group appreciate how the newcomer feels. They can remember their own fears about being identified publicly with what seems to be a terrifying word — ‘alcoholic.’
Once in AA, newcomers may be slightly amused at those past worries about its becoming generally known that they have stopped drinking. When alcoholics drink, news of their escapades travels with remarkable speed. Most alcoholics have made names for themselves as full-fledged drunks by the time they turn to AA. Their drinking, with rare exceptions, is not likely to be a well-kept secret. Under these circumstances, it would be unusual indeed if the good news of the alcoholic’s continuing sobriety did not also cause comment.
Whatever the circumstances, no disclosure of the newcomer’s, affiliation with AA can rightfully be made by anyone but the newcomer, and then only in such a way that the Fellowship will not be harmed.
9. How can I get along in business, where I have to make a lot of social contacts, if I don’t drink?
Social drinking has become an accepted part of business enterprise in many fields these days. Many contacts with customers and prospective customers are timed to coincide with occasions when cocktails, highballs, or cordials seem the appropriate order of the day or night. Many now in AA would be the first to concede that they had often transacted important business in bars, cocktail lounges, or hotel rooms or even during parties in private homes.
It is surprising, however, how much of the world’s work is accomplished without the benefit of alcohol. It is equally surprising to many alcoholics to discover how many recognized leaders in business, industry, professional life, and the arts have attained success without dependence on alcohol.
In fact, many who are now sober in AA admit that they used ‘business contacts’ as one of several excuses for drinking. Now that they no longer drink, they find that they can actually accomplish more than they used to. Sobriety has proved no hindrance to their ability to win friends and influence people who might contribute to their economic success.
This does not mean that all AA’s suddenly avoid their friends or business associates who drink. If a friend wants a cocktail or two before lunch, the AA will usually take a soft drink, coffee, or one of the popular juices. If the AA is invited to a cocktail party being given for business reasons, there will generally be no hesitation about attending. The alcoholic knows from experience that most of the other guests are concerned with their own drinks, and are not likely to care particularly what anyone else happens to be drinking.
While beginning to take pride in the quality and quantity of work on the job, the newcomer to AA is likely to find that the payoff in most lines of business is still based on performance. This was not always apparent in the drinking days. The alcoholic may then have been convinced that charm, ingenuity, and conviviality were the chief keys to business success. While these qualities are undoubtedly helpful to the person who drinks in a controlled manner, they are not enough for the alcoholic, if only because the latter, while drinking, is inclined to assign to them far more importance than they deserve.
10. Will AA work for the person who has really ‘hit bottom’?
The record shows that AA will work for almost anyone who really wants to stop drinking, no matter what the person’s economic or social background may be. AA today includes among its members many who have been on skid row, in jails, and in other public institutions.
The down-and-outer is at no disadvantage in coming to AA His or her basic problem, the thing that has made life unmanageable, is identical with the central problem of every other member of AA. The worth of a member in AA is not judged on the basis of the clothes worn, the handling of language, or the size (or existence) of the bank balance. The only thing that counts in AA is whether or not the newcomer really wants to stop drinking. If the desire is there, the person will be welcomed. Chances are, the most rugged drinking story the new member could tell will be topped by an amazing number of people in the group, with similar backgrounds and experiences.
11. Do alcoholics who are already sober ever join AA?
Most men and women turn to AA when they hit the low point in their drinking careers. But this is not always the case. A number of persons have joined the Fellowship long after they have had what they hoped was their last drink. One person, recognizing that alcohol could not be controlled, had been dry for six or seven years before becoming a member. Self-enforced sobriety had not been a happy experience. Rising tension and a series of upsets over minor problems of daily living were about to lead to further experiments with alcohol, when a friend suggested that AA should be investigated. Since then, this person has been a member for many years, and says there is no comparison between the happy sobriety of today and the self-pitying sobriety of yesterday.
Others report similar experiences. While they know that it is possible to stay grimly sober for considerable periods of time, they say that it is much easier for them to enjoy and strengthen their sobriety when they meet and work with other alcoholics in AA. Like most members of the human race, they see little point in deliberately doing things the hard way. Given the choice of sobriety with or without AA, they deliberately choose AA.
12. Why is AA interested in problem drinkers?
Members of AA have a selfish interest in offering a helping hand to other alcoholics who have not yet achieved sobriety. First, they know from experience that this type of activity, usually referred to as ‘Twelfth Step work,’ helps them to stay sober. Their lives now have a great and compelling interest. Very likely, reminders of their own previous experience with alcohol help them to avoid the overconfidence that could lead to a relapse. Whatever the explanation, AA’s who give freely of their time and effort to help other alcoholics seldom have trouble preserving their own sobriety.
AA’s are anxious to help problem drinkers for a second reason: It gives them an opportunity to square their debt to those who helped them. It is the only practical way in which the individual’s debt to AA can ever be repaid. The AA member knows that sobriety cannot be bought and that there is no long-term lease on it. The AA does know, however, that a new way of life without alcohol may be had simply for the asking, if it is honestly wanted and willingly shared with those who follow.
Traditionally, AA never ‘recruits’ members, never urges that anyone should become a member, and never solicits or accepts outside funds.
The Fellowship of AA
If the newcomer is satisfied that he or she is an alcoholic and that AA may be able to help, then a number of specific questions about the nature, structure, and history of the movement itself usually come up. Here are some of the most common ones.
If the newcomer is satisfied that he or she is an alcoholic and that AA may be able to help, then a number of specific questions about the nature, structure, and history of the movement itself usually come up. Here are some of the most common ones.
13. What is Alcoholics Anonymous?
There are two practical ways to describe AA The first is the familiar description of purposes and objectives that appears earlier:
‘Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. There are no dues or fees for AA membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions. AA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay sober and help other alcoholics achieve sobriety.’
The ‘common problem’ is alcoholism. The men and women who consider themselves members of AA are, and always will be, alcoholics, even though they may have other addictions. They have finally recognized that they are no longer able to handle alcohol in any form; they now stay away from it completely. The important thing is that they do not try to deal with the problem single-handedly. They bring the problem out into the open with other alcoholics. This sharing of ‘experience, strength and hope’ seems to be the key element that makes it possible for them to live without alcohol and, in most cases, without even wanting to drink.
The second way to describe Alcoholics Anonymous is to outline the structure of the Society. Numerically, AA consists of more than 2,000,000 men and women, in 150 countries. These people meet in local groups that range in size from a handful of ex-drinkers in some localities to many hundreds in larger communities.
In the populous metropolitan areas, there may be scores of neighborhood groups, each holding its own regular meetings. Many AA meetings are open to the public; some groups also hold ‘closed meetings,’ where members are encouraged to discuss problems that might not be fully appreciated by nonalcoholics.
The local group is the core of the AA Fellowship. Its open meetings welcome alcoholics and their families in an atmosphere of friendliness and helpfulness. There are now more than 97,000 groups throughout the world, including hundreds in hospitals, prisons, and other institutions.
14. How did AA get started?
Alcoholics Anonymous had its beginnings in Akron in 1935 when a New Yorker on business there and successfully sober for the first time in years sought out another alcoholic. During his few months of sobriety, the New Yorker had noticed that his desire to drink lessened when he tried to help other drunks to get sober. In Akron, he was directed to a local doctor with a drinking problem. Working together, the businessman and the doctor found that their ability to stay sober seemed closely related to the amount of help and encouragement they were able to give other alcoholics.
For four years, the new movement, nameless and without any organization or descriptive literature, grew slowly. Groups were established in Akron, New York, Cleveland, and a few other centers.
In 1939, with the publication of the book Alcoholics Anonymous, from which the Fellowship derived its name, and as the result of the help of a number of nonalcoholic friends, the Society began to attract national and international attention.
A service office was opened in New York City to handle the thousands of inquiries and requests for literature that pour in each year.
15. Are there any rules in AA?
The absence of rules, regulations, or musts is one of the unique features of AA as a local group and as a worldwide fellowship. There are no bylaws that say a member has to attend a certain number of meetings within a given period.
Understandably, most groups have an unwritten tradition that anyone who is still drinking, and boisterous enough to disturb a meeting, may be asked to leave; the same person will be welcomed back at any time when not likely to disrupt a meeting. Meanwhile, members of the group will do their best to help bring sobriety to the person if there is a sincere desire to stop drinking.
16. What does membership in AA cost?
Membership in AA involves no financial obligations of any kind. The AA program of recovery from alcoholism is available to anyone who has a desire to stop drinking, whether he or she is flat broke or the possessor of millions.
Most local groups ‘pass the hat’ at meetings to defray the cost of renting a meeting place and other meeting expenses, including coffee, sandwiches, cakes, or whatever else may be served. In a large majority of the groups, part of the money thus collected is voluntarily contributed to AA’s national and international services. These group funds are used exclusively for services designed to help new and established groups and to spread the word of the AA recovery program to ‘the many alcoholics who still don’t know.’
The important consideration is that membership in AA is in no way contingent upon financial support of the Fellowship. Many AA groups have, in fact, placed strict limitations on the amount that can be contributed by any member. AA is entirely self-supporting, and no outside contributions are accepted.
17. Who runs AA?
AA has no officers or executives who wield power or authority over the Fellowship. There is no ‘government’ in AA It is obvious, however, that even in an informal organization, certain jobs have to be done. In the local group, for example, someone has to arrange for a suitable meeting place; meetings have to be scheduled and programmed; provision has to be made for serving the coffee and snacks that contribute so much to the informal comradeship of AA gatherings; many groups also consider it wise to assign to someone the responsibility of keeping in touch with the national and international development of AA
When a local group is first formed, self-appointed workers may take over responsibility for these tasks, acting informally as servants of the group. As soon as possible, however, these responsibilities are, by election, rotated to others in the group for limited periods of service. A typical AA. group may have a chairperson, a secretary, a program committee, a food committee, a treasurer, and a general service representative who acts for the group at regional or area meetings. Newcomers who have a reasonable period of sobriety behind them are urged to take part in handling group responsibilities.
At the national and international levels, there are also specific jobs to be done. Literature has to be written, printed, and distributed to groups and individuals who ask for it. Inquiries from both new and established groups have to be answered. Individual requests for information about AA. and its program of recovery from alcoholism have to be filled. Assistance and information have to be provided for doctors, members of the clergy, business people, and directors of institutions. Sound public relations must be established and maintained in dealing with press, radio, television, motion pictures, and other communications media.
To provide for the sound growth of AA, early members of the Society, together with nonalcoholic friends, established a custodial board – now known as the General Service Board of Alcoholics Anonymous. The board serves as the custodian of AA Traditions and overall service, and it assumes responsibility for the service standards of AA’s General Service Office at New York.
The link between the board and the AA groups of the U.S. and Canada is the AA General Service Conference. The Conference, comprising about 92 delegates from AA areas, the 21 trustees on the board, General Service Office staff members, and others, meets for several days each year. The Conference is exclusively a consultative service agency. It has no authority to regulate or govern the Fellowship.
Thus the answer to ‘Who runs AA?’ is that the Society is a uniquely democratic movement, with no central government and only a minimum of formal organization.
18. Is AA a religious society?
AA is not a religious society, since it requires no definite religious belief as a condition of membership. Although it has been endorsed and approved by many religious leaders, it is not allied with any organization or sect. Included in its membership are Catholics, Protestants, Jews, members of other major religious bodies, agnostics, and atheists.
The AA program of recovery from alcoholism is undeniably based on acceptance of certain spiritual values. The individual member is free to interpret those values as he or she thinks best, or not to think about them at all.
Most members, before turning to AA, had already admitted that they could not control their drinking. Alcohol had become a power greater than themselves, and it had been accepted on those terms. AA suggests that to achieve and maintain sobriety, alcoholics need to accept and depend upon another Power recognized as greater than themselves. Some alcoholics choose to consider the AA group itself as the power greater than themselves; for many others, this Power is God — as they, individually, understand Him; still others rely upon entirely different concepts of a Higher Power.
Some alcoholics, when they first turn to AA, have definite reservations about accepting any concept of a Power greater than themselves. Experience shows that, if they will keep an open mind on the subject and keep coming to AA meetings, they are not likely to have too difficult a time in working out an acceptable solution to this distinctly personal problem.
19. Is AA a temperance movement?
No. AA has no relation to temperance movements. AA ‘neither endorses nor opposes any causes.’ This phrase, from the widely accepted outline of the purpose of the Society, naturally applies to the question of so-called temperance movements. The alcoholic who has become sober and is attempting to follow the AA recovery program has an attitude toward alcohol that might be likened to the attitude of a hay fever sufferer toward goldenrod.
While many AAs appreciate that alcohol may be all right for most people, they know it to be poison for them. The average AA has no desire to deprive anyone of something that, properly handled, is a source of pleasure. The AA merely acknowledges being personally unable to handle the stuff.
20. Are there many women alcoholics in AA?
The number of women who are finding help in AA for their drinking problem increases daily. Approximately one-third of present-day members are women; among newcomers, the proportion has been rising steadily. Like the men in the Fellowship, they represent every conceivable social background and pattern of drinking.
The general feeling seems to be that a woman alcoholic faces special problems. Because society has tended to apply different standards to the behavior of women, some women may feel that a greater stigma is attached to their uncontrolled use of alcohol.
AA makes no distinctions of this type. Whatever her age, social standing, financial status, or education, the woman alcoholic, like her male counterpart, can find understanding and help in AA Within the local group setup, women AAs play the same significant roles that men do.
21. Are there many young people in AA?
One of the most heartening trends in the growth of AA is the fact that more and more young men and women are being attracted to the program before their problem drinking results in complete disaster. Now that the progressive nature of alcoholism is better appreciated, these young people recognize that, if one is an alcoholic, the best time to arrest the illness is in its early stages.
In the first days of the movement, it was commonly thought that the only logical candidates for AA were those men and women who had lost their jobs, had hit skid row, had completely disrupted their family fives, or had otherwise isolated themselves from normal social relationships over a period of years.
Today, many of the young people turning to AA are in their twenties. Some are still in their teens. The majority of them still have jobs and families. Many have never been jailed or committed to institutions. But they have seen the handwriting on the wall. They recognize that they are alcoholics, and they see no point in letting alcoholism run its inevitable disastrous course with them.
Their need for recovery is just as compelling as that of the older men and women who had no opportunity to turn to AA in their youth. Once they are in AA, the young people and the oldsters are rarely conscious of their age differentials. In AA, both groups start a new life from the same milestone – their last drink.
The local group meeting is the center and heart of the AA Fellowship. It is, in many ways, a unique type of gathering and one that is likely to seem strange to the newcomer. The questions and answers that follow suggest how the AA meeting functions and how the newcomer fits into the group picture.
22. How does a person join AA?
No one ‘joins’ AA in the usual sense of the term. No application for membership has to be filled out. In fact, many groups do not even keep membership records. There are no initiation fees, no dues, no assessments of any kind.
Most people become associated with AA simply by attending the meetings of a particular local group. Their introduction to AA may have come about in one of several ways. Having come to the point in their drinking where they sincerely wanted to stop, they may have gotten in touch with AA voluntarily. They may have called the local AA office listed in the phone book, or they may have written to the General Service Office, Box 459, Grand Central Station, New York, NY 10163.
Others may have been guided to a local AA group by a friend, relative, doctor, or spiritual adviser.
Usually, a newcomer to AA has had an opportunity to talk to one or more local members before attending the first meeting. This provides an opportunity to learn how AA has helped these people. The beginner gets facts about alcoholism and AA that help to determine whether he or she is honestly prepared to give up alcohol. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.
There are no membership drives in AA If, after attending several meetings, the newcomer decides AA is not for him or for her, no one will urge continuation in the association. There may be suggestions about keeping an open mind on the subject, but no one in AA will try to make up newcomers’ minds for them. Only the alcoholic concerned can answer the question ‘Do I need Alcoholics Anonymous?’
23. What is an ‘open’ meeting?
An open meeting of AA is a group meeting that any member of the community, alcoholic or nonalcoholic, may attend. The only obligation is that of not disclosing the names of AA members outside the meeting.
A typical open meeting will usually have a ‘leader’ and other speakers. The leader opens and closes the meeting and introduces each speaker. With rare exceptions, the speakers at an open meeting are AA members. Each, in turn, may review some individual drinking experiences that led to joining AA The speaker may also give his or her interpretation of the recovery program and suggest what sobriety has meant personally. All views expressed are purely personal, since all members of AA speak only for themselves.
Most open meetings conclude with a social period during which coffee, soft drinks, and cakes or cookies are served.
24. What is a ‘closed’ meeting?
A closed meeting is limited to members of the local AA group, or visiting members from other groups. The purpose of the closed meeting is to give members an opportunity to discuss particular phases of their alcoholic problem that can be understood best only by other alcoholics.
These meetings are usually conducted with maximum informality, and all members are encouraged to participate in the discussions. The closed meetings are of particular value to the newcomer, since they provide an opportunity to ask questions that may trouble a beginner, and to get the benefit of ‘older’ members’ experience with the recovery program.
25. May I bring relatives or friends to an AA meeting?
In most places, anyone interested in AA, whether a member or not, is welcome at open meetings of AA groups. * Newcomers, in particular, are invited to bring wives, husbands, or friends to these meetings, since their understanding of the recovery program may be an important factor in helping the alcoholic to achieve and maintain sobriety. Many wives and husbands attend as frequently as their spouses and take an active part in the social activities of the local group.
(It will be recalled that ‘closed’ meetings are traditionally limited to alcoholics.)
* Consult the group for local custom.
26. How often do AA members have to attend meetings?
Abraham Lincoln was once asked how long a man’s legs should be. The classic answer was: ‘Long enough to reach the ground.’
AA members don’t have to attend any set number of meetings in a given period. It is purely a matter of individual preference and need. Most members arrange to attend at least one meeting a week. They feel that is enough to satisfy their personal need for contact with the program through a local group. Others attend a meeting nearly every night, in areas where such opportunities are available. Still others may go for relatively long periods without meetings.
The friendly injunction ‘Keep coming to meetings,’ so frequently heard by the newcomer, is based on the experience of the great majority of AA’s, who find that the quality of their sobriety suffers when they stay away from meetings for too long. Many know from experience that if they do not come to meetings, they may get drunk and that if they are regular in attendance, they seem to have no trouble staying sober.
Newcomers particularly seem to benefit from exposure to a relatively large number of meetings (or other AA contacts) during their first weeks and months in a group. By multiplying their opportunities to meet and hear other AAs whose drinking experience parallels their own, they seem to be able to strengthen their own understanding of the program and what it can give them.
Nearly all alcoholics, at one time or another, have tried to stay sober on their own. For most, the experience has not been particularly enjoyable — or successful. So long as attendance at meetings helps the alcoholic to maintain sobriety, and to have fun at the same time, it seems to be good sense to be guided by the experience of those who ‘keep coming to meetings.’
* Consult the group for local custom.
27. Do AAs have to attend meetings for the rest of their lives?
Not necessarily, but — as one member has suggested — ‘Most of us want to, and some of us may need to.’
Most alcoholics don’t like to be told that they have to do anything for any extended period of time. At first glance, the prospect of having to attend AA meetings for all the years of the foreseeable future may seem a heavy load.
The answer, again, is that no one has to do anything in AA There is always a choice between doing and not doing a thing — including the crucial choice of whether or not to seek sobriety through AA
The primary reason an alcoholic has for attending meetings of an AA group is to get help in staying sober today— not tomorrow or next week or ten years from now. Today, the immediate present, is the only period in fife that the AA can do something about. AA’s do not worry about tomorrow, or about ‘the rest of their lives.’ The important thing for them is to maintain their sobriety now. They will take care of the future when it arrives.
So the AA who wants to do everything possible to insure sobriety today will probably keep going to meetings. But attendance will always be on the basis of taking care of present sobriety. As long as the approach to AA is on this basis, no activity, including attendance at meetings, can ever resemble a long-term obligation.
28. How will I be able to find the time for AA meetings, work with other alcoholics, and other AA activities?
During our drinking days, most of us somehow managed to minimize the importance of time when there was alcohol to be consumed. Yet the newcomer to AA is occasionally dismayed to learn that sobriety will make some demands on time, too. If the beginner is a typical alcoholic, there will be an urge to make up ‘lost time’ in a hurry — to work diligently at a job, to indulge in the pleasures of a home life too long neglected, to devote time to church or civic affairs. What else is sobriety for, the new member may ask, but to lead a full, normal life, great chunks of it at a time?
AA, however, is not something that can be taken like a pill. The experience of those who have been successful in the recovery program is worth considering. Almost without exception, the men and women who find their sobriety most satisfying are those who attend meetings regularly, never hesitate to work with other alcoholics seeking help, and take more than a casual interest in the other activities of their groups. They are men and women who recall realistically and honestly the aimless hours spent in bars, the days lost from work, the decreased efficiency, and the remorse that accompanied hangovers on the morning after.
Balanced against such memories as these, the few hours spent in underwriting and strengthening their sobriety add up to a small price indeed.
29. Can newcomers join AA outside their own community?
This question is sometimes raised by persons who seem to have perfectly valid reasons for not wanting to risk identification as alcoholics by any of their neighbors. They may, for example, have employers who are totally unfamiliar with the AA program and potentially hostile to anyone who admits the existence of a drinking problem. They may wish desperately to be associated with AA as a means of gaining and maintaining sobriety. But they may hesitate to turn to a group in their own community.
The answer to the question is that a person is free to join an AA group anywhere he or she may choose. Obviously, it is more convenient to join the nearest group. It may also be the most straightforward approach to the individual’s problem. The person who turns to AA for help is usually, but not always, pretty well identified as a drunk. Inevitably, the good news of this person’s sobriety is bound to spread, too. Few employers or neighbors are likely to resent the source of their worker’s or friend’s continued sobriety, whether it centers in a local AA group or one located fifty miles away.
Few people these days are fired from their jobs or ostracized socially because they are sober. If the experience of many thousands of AAs is a reliable guide, the best approach for the newcomer is to seek help in the nearest group before beginning to worry about the reactions of others.
30. If I come into AA, won’t I miss a lot of friends and a lot of fun?
The best answer to this is the experience of the hundreds of thousands of men and women who have already come into AA In general, their attitude is that they did not enjoy real friendships or real fun until they joined AA Their point of view on both has changed.
Many alcoholics discover that their best friends are delighted to see them face up to the fact that they cannot handle alcohol. No one wants to see a friend continue to hurt.
Naturally, it is important to distinguish between friendships and casual barroom acquaintanceships. The alcoholic is likely to have many acquaintances whose conviviality may be missed for a while. But their place will be taken by the hundreds of AAs the newcomer will meet – men and women who offer understanding acceptance, and help in sustaining sobriety at all times.
Few members of AA would trade the fun that comes with sobriety for what seemed to be fun while they were drinking.
The Recovery Program
Upon attending only a few meetings, the newcomer is sure to hear references to such things as ‘the Twelve Steps, ‘the Twelve Traditions, ‘ ‘slips, ‘ ‘the Big Book, and other expressions characteristic of AA The following Paragraphs describe these factors and suggest why they are mentioned frequently by AA speakers.
31. What are the ‘Twelve Steps’?
The ‘Twelve Steps’ are the core of the AA program of personal recovery from alcoholism. They are not abstract theories; they are based on the trial-and-error experience of early members of AA They describe the attitudes and activities that these early members believe were important in helping them to achieve sobriety. Acceptance of the ‘Twelve Steps’ is not mandatory in any sense.
Experience suggests, however, that members who make an earnest effort to follow these Steps and to apply them in daily living seem to get far more out of AA than do those members who seem to regard the Steps casually. It has been said that it is virtually impossible to follow all the Steps literally, day in and day out. While this may be true, in the sense that the Twelve Steps represent an approach to living that is totally new for most alcoholics, many AA members feel that the Steps are a practical necessity if they are to maintain their sobriety.
Here is the text of the Twelve Steps, which first appeared in Alcoholics Anonymous, the AA book of experience:
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Humbly asked Him to remove our short-comings.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
32. What are the ‘Twelve Traditions’?
The ‘Twelve Traditions’ of AA are suggested principles to insure the survival and growth of the thousands of groups that make up the Fellowship. They are based on the experience of the groups themselves during the critical early years of the movement.
The Traditions are important to both old-timers and newcomers as reminders of the true foundations of AA as a society of men and women whose primary concern is to maintain their own sobriety and help others to achieve sobriety:
Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon AA unity.
For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority — a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking.
Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or AA as a whole.
Each group has but one primary purpose — to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.
An AA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the AA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
Every AA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
AA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.
Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.
33. What are ‘slips’?
Occasionally a man or women who has been sober through AA will get drunk. In AA a relapse of this type is commonly known as a ‘slip.’ It may occur during the first few weeks or months of sobriety or after the alcoholic has been dry a number of years.
Nearly all AAs who have been through this experience say that slips can be traced to specific causes. They deliberately forgot that they had admitted they were alcoholics and got overconfident about their ability to handle alcohol. Or they stayed away from AA meetings or from informal association with other AAs. Or they let themselves become too involved with business or social affairs to remember the importance of being sober. Or they let themselves become tired and were caught with their mental and emotional defenses down.
In other words, most ‘slips’ don’t just happen.
34. Does AA have a basic ‘textbook’?
The Fellowship has four books that are generally accepted as ‘textbooks.’ The first is Alcoholics Anonymous, also known as ‘the Big Book,’ originally published in 1939, revised in 1955 and 1976. It records the personal stories of 42 representative problem drinkers who achieved stable sobriety for the first time through AA It also records the suggested steps and principles that early members believed were responsible for their ability to overcome the compulsion to drink.
The second book is Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, published in 1953. It is an interpretation, by Bill W., a co-founder, of the principles that have thus far assured the continuing survival of individuals and groups within AA
A third book, Alcoholics Anonymous Comes of Age, published in 1957, is a brief history of the first two decades of the Fellowship.
The fourth is As Bill Sees It (formerly titled The AA Way of Life, a reader by Bill). This is a selection of Bill W.’s writings.
These books may be purchased through local AA groups or ordered direct from Alcoholics Anonymous, Box 459, Grand Central Station, New York, NY 10163.
35. What is ‘the 24-hour program’?
‘The 24-hour program’ is a phrase used to describe a basic AA approach to the problem of staying sober. AA’s never swear off alcohol for life, never take pledges committing themselves not to take a drink ‘tomorrow.’ By the time they turned to AA for help, they had discovered that, no matter how sincere they may have been in promising themselves to abstain from alcohol ‘in the future,’ somehow they forgot the pledge and got drunk. The compulsion to drink proved more powerful than the best intentions not to drink.
The AA member recognizes that the biggest problem is to stay sober now! The current 24 hours is the only period the AA can do anything about as far as drinking is concerned. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow never comes. ‘But today,’ the AA says, ‘today, I will not take a drink. I may be tempted to take a drink tomorrow – and perhaps I will. But tomorrow is something to worry about when it comes. My big problem is not to take a drink during this 24 hours.
Along with the 24-hour program, AA emphasizes the importance of three slogans that have probably been heard many times by the newcomer before joining AA These slogans are: ‘Easy Does It,’ ‘Live and Let Live,’ and ‘First Things First.’ By making these slogans a basic part of the attitude toward problems of daily living, the average AA is usually helped substantially in the attempt to live successfully without alcohol.
36. What is the AA Grapevine?
The Grapevine is a monthly pocket-size magazine published for members and friends who seek further sharing of AA experience. The only international journal of the Society, the Grapevine is edited by a staff made up entirely of AAs.
Single copies of the magazine are usually available each month at meetings of local groups, but most readers prefer to receive their copies on a regular subscription basis. In the U.S. the cost of annual subscription is $15.00, slightly more – in Canada; single copies are $1.50.
37. Why doesn’t AA seem to work for some people?
The answer is that AA will work only for those who admit that they are alcoholics, who honestly want to stop drinking — and who are able to keep those facts uppermost in their minds at all times.
AA usually will not work for the man or woman who has reservations about whether or not he or she is an alcoholic, or who clings to the hope of being able to drink normally again.
Most medical authorities say no one who is an alcoholic can ever drink normally again. The alcoholic must admit and accept this cardinal fact. Coupled with this admission and acceptance must be the desire to stop drinking.
After they have been sober a while in AA, some people tend to forget that they are alcoholics, with all that this diagnosis implies. Their sobriety makes them overconfident, and they decide to experiment with alcohol again. The results of such experiments are, for the alcoholic, completely predictable. Their drinking invariably becomes progressively worse.
AA has but one primary purpose, although it may indirectly be responsible for other benefits. The following are questions that are occasionally asked by newcomers to the Fellowship.
38. Will AA help me financially?
Many alcoholics, by the time they turn to AA for help with their drinking problems, have also accumulated substantial financial problems. Not unnaturally, some may cherish the hope that AA may in some way be able to help them with more pressing financial obligations.
Very early in AA experience as a society, it was discovered that money or the lack of it had nothing to do with the newcomer’s ability to achieve sobriety and work his or her way out of the many problems that had been complicated by excessive use of alcohol.
The absence of money — even with a heavy burden of debts — seemed to prove no hindrance to the alcoholic who honestly and sincerely wanted to face up to the realities of a life without alcohol. Once the big problem of alcohol had been cleared away, the other problems, including those related to finances, seemed to work out, too. Some AAs have made sensational financial comebacks in relatively brief periods. For others, the road has been hard and long. The basic answer to this question is that AA exists for just one purpose, and that purpose is in no way related to material prosperity or the lack thereof.
There is nothing to prevent any member of a group from staking a newcomer to a meal, a suit of clothes, or even a cash loan. That is a matter for individual decision and discretion. It would, however, be misleading if an alcoholic gets the impression that AA is any sort of moneyed charity organization.
39. Will AA help me straighten out my family troubles?
Alcohol is frequently a complicating factor in family life, magnifying petty irritations, exposing character defects, and contributing to financial problems. Many men and women, by the time they turn to AA, have managed to make a complete mess of their family lives.
Some newcomers to AA, suddenly aware of their own contributions to chaos, are eager and enthusiastic about making amends and resuming normal patterns of living with those closest to them. Others, with or without cause, continue to feel bitter resentments toward their families.
Almost without exception, newcomers who are sincere in their approach to the AA recovery program are successful in mending broken family lives. The bonds that reunite the honest alcoholic with family members are often stronger than ever before. Sometimes, of course, irreparable damage has been done, and a totally new approach to family life has to be developed. But generally, the story is one with a happy ending.
Experience suggests that the alcoholic who comes to AA solely to keep peace in the family, and not because of an honest desire to stop drinking, may have difficulty achieving sobriety. The sincere desire for sobriety should come first. Once sober, the alcoholic will find that many of the other problems of daily living can be approached realistically and with very good chance of success.
40. Does AA operate hospitals or rest homes for alcoholics?
There are no ‘AA rest homes or hospitals.’ Traditionally, no professional services or facilities are ever offered or performed under AA sponsorship. By adhering to the tradition of avoiding services that others are prepared to render, AA thus avoids any possible misunderstanding of its primary purpose, which is to help alcoholics searching for a way of life without alcohol.
In some areas, service committees made up of individual AA members have made arrangements with local hospitals for the admission of alcoholics who are sponsored by AA’s as individuals, not as representatives of the Fellowship as a whole.
In other areas, individual AA’s or groups of AA’s have established rest homes that cater primarily to newcomers to the recovery program. Because of their special understanding of problems confronting the alcoholic, the owners or managers of these homes are often able to help the newcomer during the first crucial period of sobriety. But these homes have no connection with AA beyond the fact that they may be operated by persons who achieved their own sobriety through AA As a movement, AA is never affiliated with business enterprises of any description.
41. Does AA sponsor any social activity for members?
Most AAs are sociable people, a factor that may have been partially responsible for their becoming alcoholics in the first place. As a consequence, meetings of local AA groups tend to be lively affairs.
AA as a fellowship has never developed any formal program of social activities for members, since the sole purpose of the movement is to help alcoholics get sober. In some areas, members, entirely on their own individual responsibility, have opened clubrooms or other facilities for members of the local group. These clubs are traditionally independent of AA, and great care is usually taken to avoid direct identification with the movement.
Even where no club exists, it is not uncommon for local groups to arrange anniversary dinners, picnics, parties on New Year’s Eve and other special occasions, and similar affairs. In some large cities, AAs meet regularly for lunch and sponsor informal get-togethers over weekends.
42. What do medical authorities think of AA?
Also see pamphlet: A.A. as a Resource for the Health Care Professional
From its earliest days, AA has enjoyed the friendship and support of doctors who were familiar with its program of recovery from alcoholism. Doctors, perhaps better than any other group, are in a position to appreciate how unreliable other approaches to the problem of alcoholism have been in the past. AA has never been advanced as the only answer to the problem, but the AA recovery program has worked so often, after other methods have failed, that doctors today are frequently the most outspoken boosters for the program in their communities.
Some measure of the medical profession’s attitude toward AA was suggested in 1951 when the American Public Health Association named Alcoholics Anonymous as one of the recipients of the famed Lasker Awards in ‘formal recognition of AA’s success in treating alcoholism as an illness and in blotting out its social stigma.’
AA is still new (or unknown) in some communities, and not all doctors are familiar with the recovery program. But here are excerpts from comments on AA by leading medical authorities:
In 1967, the American Medical Association stated that membership in AA was still the most effective means of treating alcoholism and quoted Dr. Ruth Fox, an eminent authority on alcoholism and then medical director of the National Council on Alcoholism: ‘With its thousands of groups and its 300,000 recovered alcoholics [now upwards of 2,000,000], AA has undoubtedly reached more cases than all the rest of us together. For patients who can and will accept it, AA may be the only form of therapy needed.’
‘I have the utmost respect for the work AA is doing, for its spirit, for its essential philosophy of mutual helpfulness. I lose no opportunity to express my endorsement publicly and privately where it is of any concern.’
Karl Menninger, M.D.
‘Perhaps the most effective treatment in the rehabilitation of the alcoholic is a philosophy of living which is compatible with the individual and his family, an absorbing faith in himself which comes only after he has learned to understand himself, and a close association with others whose experiences parallel his own. The physician’s cooperation with Alcoholics Anonymous is one way of obtaining these things for his patient.’
Marvin A. Block, M.D., member of the
American Medical Association’s Committee
on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence
43. What do religious leaders think of AA?
Also see pamphlet: Members of the Clergy Ask About A.A.
Probably no lay movement of modem times has been more richly endowed than AA with the support of the clergy of all the great faiths. Like the doctors, mankind’s spiritual advisers have long been troubled by the problem of alcoholism. Many of these advisers have heard honest people make sincere pledges to abstain from alcohol they could not control – only to see them break those pledges within hours, days, or weeks. Sympathy, understanding, and appeals to conscience have been of little avail to the clergy in their attempts to help the alcoholic.
Thus it is perhaps not surprising that AA – although it offers a way of fife rather than a way of formal religion – should be embraced so warmly by representatives of many different denominations. Here is how some of them have referred to AA in the past:
The Directors Bulletin, a Jesuit periodical published at St. Louis, Mo.
Father Dowling of The Queen’s Work staff had exceptional opportunity to observe the Alcoholics Anonymous movement.
“He found that the keystone of the AA therapy includes self-denial, humility, charity, good example, and opportunities for a new pattern of social recreation. All denominations are represented in the movement. Readers can be assured that no article or book on the movement is one-tenth as convincing as is personal contact with an individual or group of AA’s whose personalities and homes and businesses have been transformed from chaos into sound achievement.”
The Living Church (Episcopal)
‘Basis of the technique of Alcoholics Anonymous is the truly Christian principle that a man cannot help himself except by helping others. The AA plan is described by the members themselves as ‘self-insurance.’ This self-insurance has resulted in the restoration of physical, mental, and spiritual health and self-respect to hundreds of men and women who would be hopelessly down-and-out without its unique but effective therapy. ‘
44. Who is responsible for the publicity about AA?
The AA tradition of public relations has always been keyed to attraction rather than promotion. AA never seeks publicity but always cooperates fully with responsible representatives of press, radio, television, motion pictures, and other media that seek information about the recovery program.
At national and international levels, news of AA is made available by the Public Information Committee of the General Service Board. Local committees have also been organized, to provide the media with facts about AA as a resource for alcoholics in their communities.
AA is deeply grateful to all its friends who have been responsible for the recognition accorded the movement. It is also deeply aware of the fact that the anonymity of members, upon which the program is so dependent, has been respected so faithfully by all media.
It should also be noted that within AA, at AA meetings and among themselves, AA members are not anonymous.
A New Way of Life
A way of life cannot truly be described; it must be lived. Descriptive literature that relies upon broad, inspirational generalities is bound to leave many questions unanswered and many readers not fully satisfied that they have come upon the thing they need and seek. At the other extreme, a catalog of the mechanics and details of a program for living can portray only part of the value of such a program.
AA is a program for a new way of life without alcohol, a program that is working successfully for hundreds of thousands of men and women who approach it and apply it with honesty and sincerity. It is working throughout the world and for men and women in all stations and walks of life.
Perhaps this pamphlet has answered the main questions, spoken and unspoken, that you may have concerning AA Perhaps there are other questions that can be answered, as those in this pamphlet have been, solely on the basis of AA experience with the problem of alcoholism. If you have such questions, feel free to get in touch with an AA group in or near your community. Or write to General Service Office, Box 459, Grand Central Station, New York, NY 10163.
Reprinted from the AA Pamphlet ‘44 Questions’ with permission of AA World Services, Inc.
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